That would be the crowning glory of my writing career. While the debate about the effects has been hotly contested, most people likely see the issue as a continuous aspect of adoption research. Parents with adopted children might not realize this behavior is a rite of passage for teens, and be more apt to blame it on their adopted child’s biological parents. Human Rights Watch. Not a damn thing! My mother, aged 19, had no resources or support so felt she had no choice but to give me away, but if I had been cared for temporarily, until she was in a position to take care of me herself, I would have been able to live the life I should have had, instead of being taken away from her. January 24th, 2008. I hope your summer has been a good one so far...as for this article, I'm always shocked when someone reads one of mine and is positively affected by it...it is a small world because of the internet, isn't it? Here is how to get licensed, and the different approaches towards foster parent adoptions. 16 January 2013 Last updated at 16:52 Help. Virginia Kearney from United States on March 07, 2012: Terrific Hub--you really cover a lot of ground and make some very good observations from the perspective of adoptive parent and adoptee. Adoption is not an alternative to abortion because it remains the woman's choice whether or not to give her child up for adoption. No to Adoption. Thank you Bill, i honestly appreciate the fact that have adopted one of us. Virginia Kearney from United States on March 26, 2012: Peebles--I know a family that adopted from China. I am wired in such a way that allows me to love a child no matter his or her origin but please do not assume all adults are wired that way. I consider the fact that there are reasons why some cannot conceive naturally. If we don't adopt, the earth could get way too crowded. Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on June 21, 2018: Contented is nice as hell, Sis! Catherine Taylor from Canada on November 12, 2012: Oh bb, how is it that I am just coming to this hub now? I have helped raise 3 cousins and love them unconditionaly. Wherever possible children should remain with their birth mother. :). ViriniaLynne, as you may surmise I love adoption and bless you for adopting children from China. How long do they stay in foster care? But my wonderful family is here and will always be here for me. International adoption first started following the end of World War 2 and the start of the early Cold War. In the severe case of parental death, than adoption should be entirely legal and right.2. Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on March 06, 2012: Darn it Cyndi, I thought alcoholism was my specialty??? In many cases, an adoption will also be beneficial for the birthparents, but, mostly it is going to change your life completely in a very positive way. Well bro.....just ANOTHER brilliantly written article about a vital topic for countless individuals. When he was six his mother and I divorced and shortly afterwards he came to live with me so I single-parented him for the remaining years of his childhood and teen years. Aurelio Locsin from Orange County, CA on March 06, 2012: Thank you for this honest assessment from adoption -- you have much credibility on the topic since you approach it from two sides. :-) And thank goodness the end result worked out well all the way around. You above all others have such a unique perspective on this subject, thank you for sharing it. No, people should not adopt children. Stay that way for awhile...and if your travels ever bring you to Olympia, you sure as hell better visit your brother. An example, If a woman is raped and doesn't choose abortion. Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on March 07, 2012: Teaches, I know of no other way. The question of adoption or fostering by LGBT whether living with a partner or not remains controversial. "Pro-choice" emphasizes the right of women to decide whether to terminate a pregnancy. Hopefully he'll come around someday. This was a great article. I am a huge advocate for adoption, the poster child for a good adoption, and I can't imagine what life would have been like if my adopted parents hadn't done what they did. Jut before she got married my sister made the decision to contact him and meet him. But I feel such terrible sorrow for what I lost by not being with her. It is a lifelong commitment that should not be taken lightly. In fact, I'm feeling pretty contented. In my field there seems to be a definite trend of those who conceived via IVF having children (sometimes multiple births) with developmental delays or serious health issues. The answer is we shouldn't. And our dad walked her down the asile. Older children who have been in foster homes come with their own baggage and the degree of psychological scars that they carry can be unsettling at best and a deal-breaker at worst. to Bev. I'm an oversea adopted child. If the parent(s) give the child up.In the case of the mother (usually) giving up the child, adoption is completely unnecessary. I wish you the best....any old time you need to "talk," drop me a line. In English-speaking countries, the sides involved in the debate are the self-described "pro-choice" and "pro-life" movements. Thank you. My husband, however, is not for it so much. Or if their being abused in the household then they should also be adopted because of that. . Stellar hub! It's pointless having to create more children if we can just adopt ones that are desperately wanting a home. (I also discussed it in a podcast. It is so nice to hear adoption success stories. What language is that? Thanks for sharing from your heart and for being honest in your telling of your experience. According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, 641,000 children lived in foster care in 2012. While adopting an older child is a hard, draining thing to do it comes with a great reward when the child grows up. Love ya, Sis. As such, adoption involves the rights of three distinct "triad members": the birth parents, the child, and the adoptive parents. :) Thank you! The Debates on the Adoption of the Federal Constitution in the Convention held at Philadelphia in 1787, with a Diary of the Debates of the Congress of the Confederation as reported by James Madison, revised and newly arranged by Jonathan Elliot. Even with 52,000 adoptions in 2012, 102,000 were still legally ready for adoption with no parental rights' strings attached. There will always be serious considerations concerning parenting in general but with adoption one is making the commitment to love a child that is not biologically yours. August/September 2005 "Europe: Gay Adoption Ruling Advances Family Equality". Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on April 05, 2019: Well chosen words Bill Cautiously is the way to proceed I have friends who were adopted and who have adopted and thankfully the story has turned out well for both But as you say adoption is not something that should be entered into with out serious consideration. Out of all of those people, 140,000,000 of the people are orphans. So well written and honest. I also would've been kicked out at 18 with very little education and no help. As a previous teen foster child I have some insight into what we can do to help. Adoption is an easy way to get a child. What a great perspective to add to this conversation. I know a family that adopted a small child from Central America. 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